tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-541254253569765170.post4429715653898050278..comments2023-05-20T06:12:44.748-07:00Comments on Children are worth it!: The Tiger Motheroverlyactivehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15186071624034890142noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-541254253569765170.post-85120845811147169992011-05-04T11:55:30.131-07:002011-05-04T11:55:30.131-07:00Thanks so much for both of your comments Sandra an...Thanks so much for both of your comments Sandra and Caralee. Sandra-no I don't agree with all of Amy's thoughts hear. For example, the praising like you said. Can we expect our children to always get straight A's. It really depends on the child. Maybe for some children a B is an amazing grade. Give Credit where credit is due. If you know your child has worked hard and done his best then it's time to celebrate and let them know it. But if they didn't do their best and are doing mediocore work, then I think we are promoting laziness in our children. We don't need more laziness in this society. Caralee I also agree that it's important to have our children have opportunities to choose. Letting them choose wrongly while they are young has much a less concequence then when they are older and the stakes are higher. The author learned this and tells of her youngest child who fought and fought her while practicing the violin. It's not that she didn't love violin it's that she wanted more time to do other things like play Tennis. Once Amy told her daughter that she could pursue tennis, her daughter was so excited. She wasn't that great but she loved it and improved her game on her own. She had a strong work ethic because of what her mom taught her all these years before and she did get pretty good. Anyway, I still found the book so intriguing and even though you may not implement the Chinese Parenting Style, you may gain an appreciation for their perspective. It gets us out of our bubble a bit.overlyactivehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15186071624034890142noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-541254253569765170.post-9412564565867816782011-05-04T09:15:22.665-07:002011-05-04T09:15:22.665-07:00thanks for posting this! I really liked your revie...thanks for posting this! I really liked your review. I haven't read this book myself, but am intrigued by it, I heard about it a while back -last year I think. But everything I heard/read about it was negative, and chose not to read it. I agree with this "idea" of parenting. Our children are capable of so much. Letting them "get away" with less, is in a way not really loving them. I do however think that it can be done in a much more gentle way that Amy is describing. I like the honesty she displays with her children, the card story for example (but like I said I felt a more gentle/kind approach would have been more appropriate to me) I also really like the firmness that she uses, and think that at times that is necessary with children. Along that vein I think it would be extremely discouraging for a child to have a perfect ideal to strive to which they may not be capable of reaching (such could be the case when the parent has chosen the activity). Who really knows our/their limits best? I think we can tell when they are REALLY trying, and sometimes it is good to push those limits. That is what makes us stretch and grow. I also believe that children are perfectly capable of receiving revelation, and their needs and desires/interests are going to lead them in the path that Heavenly Father has set for them. If we choose ALL their activities for them, are we not taking their agency? I think so. I think it is good for parents to choose wisely activities to help their children be well rounded individuals. Parent must also to receive input from their children on what might be interesting to them. I am not saying the way she parents is wrong, in fact I think it is good to have her strong option on parenting out there. There are those who are at the other extreme who are very permissive. Parenting is such a balancing act, I feel it is important to strive for a happy medium. Thanks for allowing me to give my "two cents", I will re-consider my decision not to read this book based on your good recommendation!Caraleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05735548716073579514noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-541254253569765170.post-42843525042666301702011-05-04T09:12:13.928-07:002011-05-04T09:12:13.928-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Caraleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05735548716073579514noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-541254253569765170.post-65404704970948667982011-05-03T15:03:16.168-07:002011-05-03T15:03:16.168-07:00Wow I'm not sure what to think of this actual...Wow I'm not sure what to think of this actually. Of course I haven't read the book but I know you are an excellent Mother so I'm sure the way you will incorporate it will be great. The list at the first is what throws me off. I don't like it. I would think the child's self esteem would plummet if they got less than an A-. Or not complimenting them in public? Whats wrong with that? I can understand not disciplining in public but praising? I don't get that. I guess this hits close right now because the other day Danika told me she felt she would never be good enough for me. Which of course broke my heart. I expect a lot of them I'll admit but I didn't realize how much it was affecting her self esteem. I would correct her in so many things and so the story of the Mom telling the daughter to redo the card was sad. Maybe she didn't want to redo the card and put effort because she knew it would never be "good enough" Sorry to go off I know I haven't read the book but thats just the first things that came to my head.Sandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07865032714290059268noreply@blogger.com