Here is a couple scenario I've had with my own kids lately to preface my thoughts.
A school choir concert is happening where my child will be performing with the rest of his class. My child doesn't "feel" like going.
My child is playing with his friends at our home and cub scouts is going to start in 15 minutes and all the boys say they don't want to go this one time.
Wouldn't it be so much easier to just stay home, I think to myself. I'm tired, or I'm in the middle of making dinner we all could just stay home. But then I awaken and think, he has teachers, leaders and peers waiting on him, counting on him to do his part. If he doesn't go today how much easier will it be for him to say the same thing next week or next time?
What if the same child says, I don't "feel" like going to church today? When does his agency come into effect? Doesn't he get to "choose" to do what he wants to? This has probably happened or will happen for school as well.
So here is my thoughts in this matter because I think this will only be the beginning of battles that I have to decide if I am going to fight or not. First of all I have to decide what do I value. Because what I think is most important and want to instill in my own children is worth fighting for. If I want to my children to know that church is very important, then I'm going to insist that my children come to church with me. To me music lessons are important enough that I will insist they keep playing until they reach a certain age or level of playing. That's what every parent needs to decide for themselves, what is important enough. Another thing I think is really important is to support each other by attending their activities. This shows that we care and love each other, even though their part may be small. My parents were so excellent in teaching this to me. They still do everything they can to come to any of our performances or activities.
I am developing my mantra that I say, "In our home we, ________________, and you can decide what attitude you will have doing it." I think when your children live in your home their are certain rules that you can set for them to obey. After they move out of the house they may choose to live by certain rules and that is their choose but when they are in your home, they abide by your rules.
I wanted to end with a part of an article I found that I really like.